Scared teenage boy sitting in front of birthday cake.

Imagine if someone in your life reached the age of fourteen and one day said to you, 'I think I never stopped liking kids...'

People with a sexual attraction to prepubescent children may number around 1 in 100, and most of us realize it first at the age of 14.

Most of us tell nobody.

Nobody is trained to deal with it. They panic. They stop trusting us. They stop seeing us as human, and start seeing us as a threat.

And yet, most of us will live the rest of our lives without harming or abusing any child.

Some do, and almost nothing is available to prevent that.

I used to be like the boy in that picture. I wondered if I would become like the people I heard about. I was afraid. But there was no one I could talk to.

I needed someone to tell me that the word 'pedophile' didn't mean the same thing as 'child molester.'

I needed someone to tell me that I could be a good person and live a happy life.

It's more likely than you realize that someone, maybe multiple people in your life, deal with this problem in silence, feeling themselves growing apart from the people they love. Ask yourself: What can you do to be the kind of person they would feel safe sharing this secret with?

And if, some day, you find yourself supporting a 14-year-old in this situation: what will you tell them?